Hello, I’m Lindsey. If there is one thing that I have learned in my nearly five decades here on earth it’s that everyone basically wants the same thing, to be loved and be happy.
In my college years I thought happiness looked like a degree or a well paying job. Turns out just as good would be a job at an animal hospital and a gym membership. I spent my twenties building my resume and my wardrobe working for companies like Nordstrom and Giorgio Armani. I loved fashion but I loved working with people more.
I took a welcomed break from the hustle when I fell in love with a man eleven years my senior. Within a year we were married and expecting our first born. Nine years later he became a big brother. I’ve never been one to do things traditionally.
When my son started preschool I got the bug to return to work. I found a part time job that morphed into a second career that lasted another decade and ended promptly when I began the downward spiral of self sabotage. I had this great paying job and yet I felt I was failing in every aspect of my life; finances, health, organization, family and relationships. No one was happy with the sliver of effort I was giving, especially myself. I was burning out on an unsustainable lifestyle so I changed it.
In 2010 I picked up a camera, hired a web designer and launched a blog about my journey back to myself. Let me just tell you quickly it was not pretty. But the one thing that I learned over the past six almost seven years is that people don’t want to read about shiny happy lives, they want the grit. They want to know that you are no different than anyone else and that you too find comfort sinking into a quart of your favorite ice cream while wearing yoga pants with holes in the crotch.
Life can be messy.
It was those years that started me on the path of self exploration and reevaluating what was absolutely necessary in my life. I’ve worked with therapists and coaches for years trying to get to those answers but nothing will purge you of your beliefs quite like a near death experience, and in my case it was the day my niece suffered sudden cardiac arrest. (her story is here)
From that day forward all my ideas of a happy life evaporated and what was left was the truth that suffering goes hand in hand with joy. You can’t have one without the other.
With a greater appreciation for a life well lived I have immersed myself into the world of self help, specifically coaching and even more specifically Martha Beck Life Coaching. I am currently studying at the Martha Beck Institute with the goal of completing certification Summer of 2017.
On a lighter note I am a daydreamer who loves to connect the dots. I enjoy putting the pieces togethers to show others another way of seeing things. I often dabble in current planetary aspects (astrology) and oracle cards when working with my clients and they don’t always know when I am, it’s just part of what guides me as an intuitive empath.
My goal with my clients is simple, identify the areas giving them least satisfaction, the most suck and examining those thoughts around why we perceive those areas as being anything but joyful. Working with me is not about me telling you what I think you should do, rather it’s about you telling me what hasn’t worked in the past and how might a life you love look now.
I speak in metaphors
I understand life can be worrisome and unpredictable (hello election 2016) but it’s not to be feared. I often think life is like the ocean ever changing, unpredictable, powerful and fluid. My goal with clients is supply them with ideas and tools so they can handle whatever the tides brings. In coaching we call it being in a state of perpetual creative responsiveness, I call it being a surf rider.